After a relationship has gone on for a long time, it’s natural for the spark to fade. A fading spark can result in infrequent sex and a lack of interest becoming manifest. If you allow your relationship’s sex life to break down, then eventually it’s highly likely that the relationship itself will eventually fail. When you notice your relationship’s spark fading, it’s important that you act decisively so that you can fix it.
This article explores this subject in great detail, explaining how you can keep your relationship’s flame alive:
Changes
If you and your partner are both over 40, then it’s important to understand that natural hormonal changes occur around this period making sex less desirable. According to the relationship gurus from www.rebellove.com, female estrogen production slows down and the male libido decreases. Both of these things combined are very natural reasons for why your sex life might be failing and the “flame” in your relationship fading. If you suspect that age and hormonal changes are the catalysts for your relationship becoming less intense, then it’s important to discuss your theory with your partner. You could visit a doctor to see what can be done about it, although it’s likely something that can’t be changed and that you must come to terms with.
Understand
If hormonal changes aren’t the reason for your relationship’s seeming breakdown, then you need to sit down with your partner and try to understand what’s causing it. There are myriad factors that could be in play, from simple boredom to a love interest in somebody else. The only way to determine what the cause of your relationship’s failure is to talk it out with your partner, and be as honest as possible. When you understand what’s causing your relationship’s failure, you will either be able to mend it or move on. Moving on from a long-term relationship can be very hard. It’s worth trying to save your relationship before you even consider that, otherwise all the time that you will have been with your partner will have been in vain.
Honesty
Honesty is very important, as already mentioned. If you and your partner can’t be honest with each other then you won’t be able to get to the root cause of your relationship’s problems. No matter what the cause is, if you know it, then you must be vocal about it, even if it is embarrassing. For example, if your partner’s poor sexual performance is the catalyst for your relationship’s breakdown, then you need to tell them about this. This is something that can be resolved, as long as they commit themselves to work on their performance.
Flirting
One very effective way of reigniting your relationship’s flame is to begin flirting with your partner again. If you have been together for a long time, then it’s very likely that you stopped flirting with one another a long time ago. Flirting can be a very effective way of improving communication and kickstarting sex again. If you aren’t confident flirting in person, then start off by texting your partner and flirting with them there. Gradually, and over time, you will begin feeling more confident about flirting with your partner physically (and initiating sex).
Sexting
Texting your partner as already mentioned, is a great way of striking up an impersonal conversation. It’s also a great way of restarting your relationship, which you can do by sexting. As long as the attraction is still there, you can go ahead and send your partner dirty pictures of yourself, as well as messages. Sexting that takes place over the course of a day nearly always results in sex. If you haven’t had sex for a while, sexting could get you both very hot and could lead to animalistic sex, something you may not have had since your relationship’s beginning. Definitely give it a go.
Improving your relationship’s spark is crucial if you want it to last. A relationship without a spark will eventually break down, it’s a fact of life. If you do persist and stay together, the love will likely fade also, and you will grow to dislike each other. You need to transform your relationship, which you can do by following this article’s guidance.